Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” -Bob Marley
We often put up walls to stop people getting into our hearts and hurting us. There are a lot of names for this, some call it baggage, some call it unfinished business. When leaving a relationship you feel gutted and hurt, the thought of anyone else coming inside your heart is just too painful to mention, so we put up emotional walls to protect ourselves. At the time it seems like the sensible thing to do, the most rational thing to help us move on. What we often forget to realize is that when the next person we are interested in and our walls are still up the adverse effect this will have on the relationship.
We put up 4 walls around us to shelter us from the elements, the cold hard rain that chills us, making us feel cold, empty and alone, the sun that scorches, blisters and burns leaving permanent marks that we will never forget. Like in the elements we feel the need to put up walls to shield us from the chill of a break up or the hot blast of an argument but did we ever stop to think are we just walling ourselves in, closing ourselves off to anyone else? I myself have known the cold hard pain of a relationship more than once and have seen the effect that walls have when trying to move on, it’s never easy, its never fun. Relationships are tough and in the end someone always gets hurt and it will more often that not be you. So I want to ask you, is it worth putting up walls to shield yourself when you may not let the right one in and miss the love of your life?